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Sunday, 22 October 2017

6 MAJOR THINGS I'VE LEARNT

Storm Brian is on a mad one outside on this cold, windy autumnal afternoon. So I'm on the sofa with my dog, hot chocolate (ft. marshmallows and whipped cream) in hand and watching the LOST box set, thinking I'd like to share with you some major life lessons I've learnt so far...



1. Getting a nose job was the best thing that I've ever decided to do.

I'll probably do a whole post on this at some point with before/after photos, but I got a nose job back in 2013 because I didn't like my nose! At the time loads of people would gossip about it and I was trying to keep it a secret because of what people would think/say. Looking back now, it was the best decision I've ever made. I'd wanted it done since I was 14 and was 19 when I actually had the procedure. Through my teenage years, I wouldn't want to sit at the side of anyone on the bus and would be so funny about pictures- wanting only to be photoed straight on! A nose job gave me confidence and made me so much happier, which affected how I was around friends and boys, etc. 
Lesson learnt = If you ever are so insecure about something that it is actually making you unhappy day-to-day and you are lucky enough to be in the position to do something about it- do it & don't care what other people think, it's your life.






2. Experiences are more valuable than material things.

When you're old and looking back on your life, you're not going to be thinking about the designer bags, belts, shoes you own, but the people in your life and the memories you've made. I bloody love my Gucci belt and my Mulberry handbag, but I'm always going to be putting trips, events, holidays first. This year I've been so lucky to have gone on some amazing trips with all of my best friends, family and boyfriend included so I've spent some quality time and made memories that I'll always be able to look back on and smile at. 


Me and my girls from high school/6th form still best friends on a weekend break in Devon.



3. Break-ups are NOT the end of the world!

When I was 18, I had just started my first year at uni and was with my then boyfriend of 2 years. His uni didn't start until a few weeks after mine but we were happy and I was in a right little love bubble thinking nothing could go wrong. However, when he started university (about 3 days into his own freshers week) he cheated on me and and slept with someone else. At the time...I was absolutely heartbroken and I had no idea of what that felt like until then. I couldn't sleep, I couldn't eat, I couldn't focus on doing any form of uni work. I genuinely thought I'd never be happy again which sounds sooo dramatic but at the time it was the lowest point of my life.
SO what happened? I focused on me- I lost some weight, focused on making friends, going out, enjoying myself and learning that never again should my happiness rely on a guy. Now, I'm completely over it and am really happy. I've also been through another break up since then and it didn't hurt nearly as much.
Don't get me wrong, when I think back I still get angry and sad at the situation and that I ever felt like that but I've genuinely come out stronger for it. Basically, it does get better, and you will be fine!





4. Go out and enjoy yourself....but know your limits.

Now we've all been young, drunk and loving life. However, I've had some serious wake-up calls, or let's say, some serious post-drinking consequences that lasted longer than a hangover.
1) First year uni (newly single, wild & free, as earlier described) and us lot at Leeds Uni went on a night out with Sheffield Uni. It was THEMED 'Leeds devils vs Sheffield Angels', so off we went on a coach dressed as slutty devils on a Monday night to the club DQ in Sheffield. Now, I can't remember much past the tequila shots to be honest but next thing I know, I'm waking up in a toilet cubicle with my phone upside down in the corner next to my devil horns (completely dead battery), I've got no idea of the time, and I have a card machine in my clutch bag. LOL. I'm very very confused. I stumble out of the toilets into the dark, quiet and empty club using the stolen card machine as a light. I have to break myself out of the club fire exit, setting off the alarm (brilliant). I see this woman in the distance, and as I have no idea where I am or which way the train station is, I run over to her. Poor woman has this 'slutty devil' running towards her. She's very kind and walks with me to the train station, dropping it into conversation that she works for BBC Sheffield and the office is near the station so she can show me the way (I silently pray that she doesn't write an article on this). Turns out it's 6.30am and the coach back to Leeds had left a long long time ago.
Long story very short- I have to get on the train back to Leeds with all the 9-5 commuters, makeup down my face, short red dress, absolutely hating my life. I finally get back to my halls, burst into tears as I knock on my flatmates door, and then order the biggest Domino's ever. I had 50+ missed calls, voicemails, texts from worried friends when I finally charged my phone! It's a hilarious story to tell now, but not big and not clever! 


2) Twice have I broken a hand/arm due to my antics on a night out. The below picture is a year and a half ago where I fell down the stairs. I ended up spending 9 hours waiting in A&E the next day, plus had to rock a cast and a computer based 9-5 office job for the next 6 weeks. Applying makeup, showering, straightening your hair is such a mission with just one arm!



5.  Don't let failure get you down and don't let success get to your head.


At 24, I'm still at the start of my career. I'm a very driven person and I'm also really hard on myself. When I do well at something, I'm so pleased and feel such a sense of achievement, but when something goes wrong I really feel like I've let myself down, which in turn affects my mood, my motivation, and it turns into this negative cycle where I stew over what went wrong and over think everything. I think it's important to remember that when things go either well or badly, everything can change.


6. Look after your skin!


Lastly, I just wanted to include this. My mum is a cosmetic surgery nurse specialist so it's always been drummed into me to look after my skin- but most importantly this involves knowing the damage the sun does to your skin. Nothing causes ageing more! So wear SPF daily (30+) and stay off sunbeds if you want to look 30 when you're 40 (who doesn't). I know some people who's skin looks quite leathery now as they've worshipped the sun so much. I hate being pale and love a tan so I'm all about fake tan. I know fake tan is more of a faff but ageing + skin cancer risks just aren't worth it for me.



Thanks for reading everyone!
Liv x

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